Over the course of adolescence, people interact with one another, forming relationships, whether they are healthy or unhealthy.
There is a large correlation between the self-esteem of the two people, and the state of their relationship. The lower one’s self-esteem in a relationship is, the unhealthier their relationship is likely to be. Conversely, a healthy or unhealthy relationship can also raise or lower one’s self-esteem.In the 1999 film “10 Things I Hate About You,” the relationship between Kat Stratford and Patrick Verona is an example of how a healthy relationship can raise one’s self esteem, while the relationship between Bianca Stratford and Chastity Church shows how a low self-esteem can lead to an unhealthy relationship. At the beginning of the film, Kat and Patrick have an unhealthy relationship. They are lying to each other and not communicating properly. Patrick is keeps secrets about why he is making advances on Kat, and they both don’t talk to each other about their problems whenever one in their relationship comes up.
Kat has a low self-esteem, which is shown when she goes to the party and decides to get wasted on alcohol and perform because “that’s what everybody does at a party. ” The largest problem in their relationship hits during the climax of the movie, in which Kat finds out that Patrick was actually being paid by Joey to woo her. Rather than ignoring this gigantic rock in their relationship, they use healthy techniques to deal with the problem. They talk to each other about how they feel, without any lies or with-holding of truth.By the end of the movie, their relationship has transformed from an unhealthy relationship filled with lies and blindness to a healthy one with open emotions and good communication. This relationship strengthened Kat’s self-esteem as well, because later in the film, she admits that she chose to disappoint people early on so that she wouldn’t have to live up to other people’s expectations, but realizes that that isn’t the case. The relationship between Bianca Stratford and Chastity Church is a prime example of how a low self-esteem can lead to an unhealthy relationship.
Chastity has a low self-esteem, as shown in their conversation during the exposition of the film. When they are discussing Bianca’s Prada backpack and their Sketchers, Bianca is discussing how she likes her sketchers, but loves her Prada backpack. Chastity, stopping, replies that she loves her sketchers, obviously a bit offended by the subliminal insult Bianca sent her. However, this only lasts a moment before Chastity plasters a fake smile on her face and moves on.This scene showed how Chastity’s self-esteem was low enough for her to hide the fact that she was hurt and insulted, but also showed the unhealthy relationship the two friends had because instead of talking about how Chastity felt and sharing their emotions, they ignored it and moved on. The large problem in this relationship occurs when Bianca finds out that Joey took Chastity to prom the moment he found out that he wasn’t going to be able to go with her.
When Bianca confronts Chastity, they don’t settle the problem in any healthy manners.Instead, Chastity bluntly informs Bianca that Joey was merely aiming to “nail her” that night and insults her, likely cutting off whatever sort of unhealthy screwed up relationship they’d had. In the 1999 motion picture “10 Things I Hate About You,” Several interesting adolescent relationships are portrayed, showing the correlation between self-esteem and healthy relationships.
While the healthy relationship between Kat Stratford and Patrick raised their self-esteems, the low self-esteem of Chastity Church led to an unhealthy relationship between her and Bianca Stratford.