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    Every day I am at school, my mother stays at home and my father goes to work through the New Jersey transit train. My mother is always watching culinary videos and cooking from afternoon until around 6 p.m. in the evening. My father does not come back at home until 7 p.m. When he arrives home, he simply eats dinner and watches the television. I was raised to think that I would have to work at a white collared job one day. I thought that men go to work while women bake cookies and go for a walk each day. During the weekends, both of my parents are at home together. However, my father does not insist on helping my mother in cooking food unless he is told to do so. Therefore, I have never seen my father and mother ever cook together with love even though they have so much time off on the weekends. Every child wants their parents to work as a pair instead of being divided on who should complete certain tasks. However, this event that every child wants to see their family is not fulfilled due to the discriminating gender roles that are part of our everyday life. Gender roles have been part of human existence for a long time and it affects how men and women are seen in society. Being born with a certain gender means you will be expected to follow the stereotypes pertaining to your gender. For example, boys will become masculine as they are exposed to the stereotypes that men are physically stronger, love sports, go to jobs and skilled at math. Girls will learn to be feminine by seeing women being kind, caring, working as nurses, baking cookies, sewing and staying at home. Gender roles in the family are mostly determined by the roles that men and women play in society. Women are often the housewives that work in their homes and care. Men hold the dominant status in society and are the commanders in their nuclear families. Men and women have different expectations although changes in traditional roles between men and women happened slowly.  Because gender roles affect how people are seen in society, people often have certain traditional roles when it comes to running the family based on their gender.     In many families, women often play the role of a housewife that is caring and hard at work in their homes. It is agreed that both men and women have increased morals as they age, but some studies prove that women are more moral than men. On Daily Mail, a person named professor Steare had told about how women make decisions based on the effects it has on other people. Women are known as people with moral characteristics that would make them be thought as mothers by their children. For a long period of time, society believed that…  “philosophy included four virtues that any true woman should embody: piety, purity, submissiveness, and domesticity.”(Edward L. Schor, 1)  Although women possess such qualities, they have not been dominant over men in certain ways. In the household, women have been seen as just a partner of their husbands. As a result , the … “true women were encouraged to see their roles as mother, wife, cook, and housekeeper as divine rights, more than adequate for a fulfilling, though potentially overwhelming life.”(Edward L. Schor, 1). The idea of women being able to accomplish certain roles in their household arise from gender stereotypes in society. The stereotypes that society places on women are that they focus on their house and weak. It has also been accepted that women have the biological abilities to take care of their children, unlike their male counterparts. These notions that society places on women influence their role that they are assumed to have as mothers in the family. As women are seen by their domesticity or being focused on their house, they are supposed to make sure homes meet good standards and that family clothing is washed and dried in a satisfactory way. Women are seen as the weak individuals in society that have to take much blame as a member of the family. They are blamed on if their husbands have been unfaithful to them and if a child has done a mistake or a crime that were not the fault of others. However, their presumed kindness and biological ability to take care of children have allowed women to have the authority to take care of their children if they had to divorce. Since women are better able to handle their homes and care for their children efficiently, they are portrayed as typical housewives.     In contrast to women, men are viewed as a dominant and a strong leader by their family members. This stereotype of fathers being an authority figure has arisen from the fact that they were physically strong people that would be capable of performing professional sports such as weightlifting. It is also common in many nations in the world to value masculine traits over feminine traits. Masculine traits that make fathers a key leader in the family include the ability to stay unemotional, be aggressive, skilled at math or science and have a path related to careers. Despite the increasing gender equality that is occurring to both men and women, there are cultures that have fathers as …  “patriarchal authority figures governing the family.” (Judith Roof, 2).  For a long period of time in history, fatherhood has thought to be about holding a large responsibility for guiding one’s family towards success and proper welfare. As a result, “the father was understood as the source of authority, rulemaking, financial security, and discipline … ” (Judith Roof, 2). For many generations, fathers have been known as those who are involved heavily in the workforce. They are thought to be involved in areas involving construction, engineering, science, math, and mechanics. However, men are not thought to be hardworking and organized like women. Regardless of this fact, men are still in the top of society and have more privileges to be an authoritative person since they are physically stronger than women. These general stereotypes that are made on men can contribute to their role in the family. Since they are seen as career-oriented, men are usually the only people in their nuclear family that are responsible for making an income. The views of men being career-oriented also mean that they spend less time with their children and do not have the time or experience with doing tasks such as cooking, cleaning the house or sewing. With the natural notion that men are the top leaders in society, men have been able to command their wives on what should be done while they are at work. In a great sense, members of a family often look up to their fathers as dependable and assured.     Some changes to traditional roles between men and women have occurred from historical times to modern times, but the responsibilities of men and women remain different. Much progress has been made for women to have the rights that they enjoy today. This has contributed to the change in gender roles in families in terms of labor work. Fathers and mothers have still had different expectations in terms of traditional roles, but the way they contribute to the family has become different. For example, men or husbands have started to stay at home to take care of children.  In fact, the presence of stay home dads has increased from 1.1 million in 1989 to 2 million in 2012 according to the U.S. Census Bureau. On the other hand, “Women … entered the workforce in greater numbers for a wide range of reasons, from personal fulfillment to financial need.” (Polly Curtis, 1). Although many women today have to deal with both their professional lives and being a housewife, they have the privilege of taking a paid maternal leave. However, “… fathers wishing to take more than their set vacation days for a new birth are considered to be less committed to their career.” (Polly Curtis, 2). There is no doubt that women and men’s roles in society have been changing since the past 50 years. However, stereotypes made in society about women being caring and handling the household and men being committed to their careers have made it harder for men and women in modern times. Women today have a more difficult situation than women of older generations as they have to deal with professional work as well as their domestic chores. They are afraid of the fact that working more often means that they do not spend much time with their children. Men have a hard time trying to manage between staying home and working at their jobs. They are often looked down upon when trying to spend time at home because it would be thought that men do not want to work at a job. The stereotype of men being in the workplace more often than women has been proven by studies claiming that an average man works eight more hours weekly than women. This would serve as one the reasons that paternity leaves are rarely discussed about. Paternity leaves look very bad towards a man’s reputation in his career, but maternity leaves are guaranteed to women as it is understood that women are needed to take care of children. Maternity leaves give mothers a chance to have a paid leave lasting twenty-six weeks while there are no actual leaves given to fathers. At the best, fathers can only take time off from their job using a twelve-week unpaid leave. Changes in traditional roles for men and women have not necessarily caused a complete equality between them as their roles still remain unalike.      As gender roles differ for both men and women, women and men are expected to have differing positions in the typical family. Men are considered as tough people that express the ability to become dominions in any place. On the other hand, women are simply soft people and able to raise their children in the household itself. These stereotypes are changing slowly with the gradual rise of new traditional roles for women and men. There are upper trends of men staying at home while women are now able to work. However, the type of expectations that women and men are supposed to fulfill are still very different as they are various stereotypes made of the two groups. Gender stereotypes will stay true in society if people keep thinking that men are strong and women are weak figures. It will also continue to be proven right most of the time if young generations of boys and girls will learn through what they see in their family. Girls will eventually master what they had seen or been taught by their mothers. Boys will obviously follow the career pathways established by their fathers. These experiences that are shared between boys and girls will shape how they will manage their families as adults in the future.