People was a chapter devoted to effective Interpersonal leadership.
The chapter discusses how you must lead and live with a wall/wall thought process. There are SIX paradigms of interaction; evil/wall, win/lose, lose/win, lose/lose, win and win. Vine or no deal.
Win/win thinking makes everybody happy. It is a mutual agreement that benefits both parties and leaves both parties feeling satisfied with the decision. Win/lose is a flawed thought process. It is based on winning based on power, not principle.It’s unhealthy because it leaves en party a “loser” and has effects in the long run. Win/lose people use position, power, credentials, possessions or personality to gain the upper hand. It is thought that win/lose people are the way they are from birth; their parents molded them into that way of thinking. The academic world is also based on win/lose concepts.
Students are graded with letters based on performance and compared to other students. Grades carry a social value for students and can either open doors for them or close them.Athletics Is also based widely on a wall/lose concept, If you don’t in the game, you’re a “loser.
” The law Is loosely based on a win/lose concept when It comes to court. One party wins the case at the other’s expense. Lose/win people are worse off than win/lose people. Lose/win people are people who let other’s walk all over them and give other people the “win. ” Lose/win people tend to have little to no courage and often end up the “nice guy,” who gets stepped on often.
Win/lose people take advantage of lose/win people and play off of their weaknesses.Both of these personalities of people are based off of the person’s insecurities. Lose/lose situations happen when two win/lose people get together and try to best each other. They try so hard to beat the other person or get back at them that their results end up lacking. Win people are people who do not want other people to lose, but do not care what they have to do to win in order for It to happen. If someone loses In the process of them winning, so be It.
Wall/wall or no deal Is a larger concept based off on win/wall where the parties agree that If there Is no wall/wall situation than a deal will not be made.Several properties go into the making of a successful win/win deal. The winter thought process requires vision, the proactive initiative and the security, guidance, wisdom and power that come from leadership based on principles. There are five dimensions that are interdependent in win/win thinking.
The first one is character which is based off of maturity, integrity and having abundance mentality. The second one is relationships which are based off established trust and respect with parties involved.The third one is agreements which give direction to the win/ in agreement and are based Off mutual understanding of desired results, guidelines, resources, accountability, and consequences. The fourth dimension Is systems which basically state, “If you talk the talk, you better walk the walk,” and has the wall/wall rewards agreed upon by both parties.
The last dimension Is the processes which separate the person from the problems. Focuses on interests and I learned a lot about effective interpersonal leadership through this chapter and hope to carry it with me as I take the steps necessary to become a more effective person.