When babies cry we normally want to pick them up In hopes that the crying stops. So what happens when we are told not to? As a child care provider we fill the need to make sure that all kids In our classrooms are being taken care of. If a mother of a SIX month old baby decides that she does not want to hold her child as often because she is trying to teach the child independence then we should inform her that we respect that but as a teacher we need to inform the mother that we will do our best to to hold the child but we cannot guarantee it.One of the things that we can do if the child is crying is to try rocking the child in a swing, bouncer, or even a crib. Inform the mother that you will try other methods of calming the child down but if all else fails then you will pick the child up.
You can always inform the mother that it is important for the child because at such a young age they are still creating certain attachments. Let them know the child may be feeling or can come to feel an insecure attachments.An Insecure attachment Is shown by a child who either shows little preference for the mother over a stranger or Is wary of strangers and upset at separation but Is not reassured by the mothers return. (Boyd & Bee, 2012) Another reason as to why you would not want to neglect the child from being held is because not only are they forming a secure attachments but the child is also developing a sense of basic trust. Erickson believed that the mother or primary caregivers behavior played a big role in the child being successful. Children who reach the end of their first year with a firm sense of trust re those whose parents are loving and respond predictably and reliably to the child” (p. 234) it is important for the mom to know this because though she may feel that she is making the child more independent she may actually be developing mistrust. Spanking scenario Children do not always listen well with others but when it comes to spanking the child we tend to think that this is okay because the child listens for that brief moment.
But is it really okay to spank your child? Some people would say yes.So what happens when a parent ask us to spank their child if they are misbehaving. Personally I would inform the parent that it is against my beliefs on spanking. I would inform the parent that I do not believe in spanking the children but that maybe we can try some different methods of punishment. The first method I would suggest would be time out. Inform the parents that though it may not be a spank the child will still know that they have done something bad.
You can tell the parents that you have a designated table for students In time out and that It Is away from the other children.Spanking Is not the only form of enmeshment for kids and we always have to remember that punishment Works’ If you use it properly it will produce rapid changes in the behavior of other people. ” (Boyd & not think a spanking is bad.
The second method that I would use is cutting out their recess time. If they are constantly in time out then inform the child that not only are they going to sit alone in the classroom but that they will also have to recess. We know most children usually like to have play time and if you threaten to take that away they might try and behave a little more.Even though the child may be upset with both of these punishments they will know that the way they were behaving is bad. If the child goes home and continues to misbehave at home then it is up to the parents to punish the child.
We have to remember that we always have to be consistent with the rules. “Making it clear to the child what the rules are, what the consequences are of disobeying (or obeying) them” (Boyd & Bee 2012 p. 323) Because many parents believe that it is okay to spank their children we need to make sure that they are also aware of any long term effects.Many parents believe that the short term effects of spanking are not only to make the child stop misbehaving for that time or causing them be upset with the parents but it also does have long term effects. Research evidence actually suggest that “children who are spanked, at later ages are less popular with their peers and show higher levels of aggression, lower self-esteem and more emotional instability…
” (p. 324) Most parents are not aware of this and that is what we has instructors need to inform them of.