What is Love?Your heart’s hammering, you’re glowing with excitement andgiddy with anticipation. You can’t focus on your work as you’re eagerly waitingfor a message from them. You’ve got no appetite because nothing tastes as goodwhen you’re not with them. No one else understands you like they do as your connectionwith them is supernatural.
You hate being away from them and when you’re withthem you don’t want it to end. He’s become part of the family. The missingjigsaw piece in all of our lives. There are incredible highs and lows and asyou go through the motions you realise you wouldn’t change it for the world. But,when they forget to call you get anxious. They are in a wicked mood and you feelguilty as if it’s your fault. Heaven forbid if they express that they havedoubts about the relationship. Despite the occasional uncertainty, the overpoweringemotions you feel towards that other human is something money cannot buy.
So what is real love? We live within an immense cultural misconception about the conceptof real love. It’s heightened by the media from the moment you’re born as you’reoverwhelmed with the idea that love is a sure feeling and that you’ll know whenyou’ve found “the one”. When the honeymoon phase ends, your true feelings comeout as the love you were overwhelmed by fades and the work of real love begins.
This is the stage where people give up. They walk away because most people takethe weakened feelings as a sign that they made a mistake. So they start overand the never ending cycle of loving and losing goes on again and again. Is love not a feeling? Love is knowing the ins, outs, flawsand traits and showing them that you love them regardless. Love is giving. Loveis receiving.
Love is tedious as you wade through the rough parts of arelationship without climbing on board another’s boat when the waves get rough.Love is recognizing that you need to fulfil yourself as your partner can’talways make you feel alive and complete. It’s not a job that they have to workat.
And as soon as you learn to become the source of your own happiness, youbecome eligible to put that love into another human being.The good news is: when the original fascination feelingfades, the real work of learning how to love and be loved begins. Then somethinginfinitely richer and nourishing comes out of the relationship as you worktogether to build your own happiness and accomplishments. Over time, the flowerthat is your relationship grow roots that can’t be broken. You are the soilthat constantly works to keep the flower alive as you pull out the feelings offrustration and impatience so the flower can stay strong.
It doesn’t happenovernight. Flowers take love and affection over long periods of time until theystem into something to be proud of. This fantasy is what our culture propagatesas it throws new couples into turmoil as their relationship falls at the firsthurdle and they can’t get back up.Young people need to be educated on thedifference between love and infatuation. True, real, overbearing love is feltas you both know that you’re in it for the long run. Your partner is a sourceof support and comfort that is there to make you accept all of your flaws andmake you be the best version of yourself.
The younger generation need tounderstand that love is a final result of hard work and failure that comesafter so many falls. If we’re going to restore relationships to a place ofhonour and respect, we must teach that the role of one’s partner is not to saveyou from yourself and make you feel alive, fulfilled, and complete; only youcan do that. It’s time to teach a different message. So, when you see your partner through the eyesof real love, you’ll know that while your partner may not always make youhappy, you love them nonetheless.
That’s when you know you’ve arrived at thedestination of true love.